I'll summerise this quickly...';got on well with my friend, she looked in my eyes loads, stealing my food at break at skl, at a party wouldn't let anyone play badminton with her except me etc, told her i loved her via txt, she didnt say much, so i went on a bit to much, finally said she wasnt interested, but she wasn't the same afterwards, doens't talk much now, says to some that if i had left her alone completely then she would have been talking, and that she felt bad about it and would try and be better, but says to others that she never wants to be friends again, and thats all i want, nothing more. Tried talking to her, everything, doesn't do much. so that is outa the question. I only wanna be friends, what should i do. she knows thats all i want. At the moment i am leaving her alone to see if she gets better in the future, is this right. plus i still love her deep down i think, but i only wanna be friends again. By the way we are both 16 year olds. any advice??!!Teenage Girl Problems, Friendship advice!?
Hi there,
It sounds like you鈥檙e in a confusing situation. Your friend has been giving mixed messages, initially spending a lot of time with you, and now not speaking to you as much.
You say you want to be friends with this girl, but that you love her deep down. Telling her how you feel about her was a really brave thing to do, and now she is behaving differently towards you we can see why you want advice.
She has said that she isn鈥檛 interested in spending time with you, and I think you鈥檙e right to give her some space. Even though this may be very disappointing for you, it鈥檚 important to carry on as normal. This girl might be finding it difficult to process that you (someone she saw as a friend), now have feelings for her. She may be feeling a bit uncomfortable about the situation, and just needs some time to think about what you鈥檝e said.
Be open with her so she knows you still want to be friends, but try and make sure your life doesn't revolve around her, and make sure you go out and have fun with other people. There is an article on TheSite.org which gives advice about what to do if you鈥檙e in love with your best friend which you might find interesting http://www.thesite.org/sexandrelationshi鈥?/a>
It's hard to fall out of love with someone overnight, you can't just turn your feelings off. However, if you find other interests to focus on, your feelings for her may well fade with time. An option then is getting out and filling your time with things that make you happy.
Surround yourself with friends. Talking will help get things in perspective, but if that makes you feel uncomfortable then just time spent having a laugh in their company can remind you that there's plenty of fun to be had being single. Plus, if there are any other girls you fancy in your school, now you鈥檙e free to flirt with whoever you like!
There are some great flirting tips on TheSite.org which you might enjoy putting into practice! http://www.thesite.org/sexandrelationshi鈥?/a>
We hope this answer helps in some way and we're sure you鈥檒l be feeling a lot differently about this girl before you know it.
The summer is a great time to be single and care free 鈥?all the best!Teenage Girl Problems, Friendship advice!?
Try showing an interest in other girls, especially when she is around. Making a point of ignoring her as if you had no interest in her. I am sure she will not like the idea of you going off with another girl. If she tries to make contact with you, ignore her. But don't keep it up for too long, perhaps a week should do it. Don't be too hasty to reply to her attempts to make contact with you.
I hope this helps.
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