Girl trouble, any advice welcome...?

The situation is: i know this girl who's just been dumped by her boyfriend (who is also my friend) after 13 months of relationship and he got a new girlfriend anyway,


I started talking to her sometimes and it seems to me so natural having conversations because with most other girls i have to think of what to say etc but with her it's normal. I've been thinking for some time that i would like to go out with her (at least give it a go). Firstly, she told me she doesn't really need a boyfriend because of the breakup but i still want to ask her because my relationship to her is very open and respectful, i'm pretty sure if i asked her she wouldn't take it as a bad thing so basically i think i could help her get over the other boy (se doesn't seem to be that sad she says that he's an idiot etc but nothing major) so both of us can only come out better - I'm sure our friendship won't be ruined or anything.


I know i should really give her time to get over him but i think i could help her forget about him - because he basically still treats her as a friend like nothing has happened maybe he just doesn't realise.


Anyway would it be good if i asked her like this (like in the middle of a conversation) 'Do you know what? I think i fancy you, i know you said you don't want a boyfriend at the moment but just keep that in mind...'


Suggestions please...Girl trouble, any advice welcome...?
You are in a position a lot of guys LOVE--being the ';knight in shining armour'; for this girl, someone that can talk to and ';save'; her from her issues that she converses with you about. A friendship with a girl is definitely something to appreciate!





You shouldn't sacrifice the possibility of your friendship being as good as it seems to be now just so you can have the satisfaction you desire to date this girl. She will probably be interested in dating you later, but right now just isn't the right time it seems. If you push it on her, then she'll get irritated, turned-off, and she won't want to possibly be friends with you if you keep on bringing up the fact you really like her and would want to date her.





But at the same time, whereas being ';just a guy friend'; seems kind of like the short end of the stick, here's the beauty in the situation. It seems like she does a lot of venting to you, so if you respect the position of trust she's put you in [TRUST me, venting about your issues as a teenage girl is HARD, I'm 15 I know!] then once she IS ready to date someone, she'll remember you and how kind, sweet, understanding, and thoughtful you were to her always, and she'll really be turned on by that!





Don't sacrifice your friendship for a relationship you want right now, because... 1) You'll lose a friend possibly; and; 2) It'll possibly jeopardize your chances of having a PERFECTLY timed relationship in the future, when you are BOTH ready!





Patience is a virtue for a reason my friend. I hope I helped, and best of luck! :)Girl trouble, any advice welcome...?
haha i dont know if i would just say that in the middle of the conversation. It might get kinda akward, i would just drop subtle hints you know. But i think its better that her ex still talks to her as a friend, its better than him just ignoring her.
you don't have to ask her by saying 'boyfriend' in the sentence. You could just say something like 'do you want to go and see a movie or something' then at the end say 'i like this we should do it again sometime'
she needs more time,shes already said,but if you think this girls worth the effort and shes the one you want then you will wait.like they say all good things come to those who wait.hang in there and good luck
If you found a girl that you get along with that well. Keep her as a friend. Iv made this mistake a few times. Now don't have any female friends that are genuinerin, only those who only want to know me for what they can get out of me, or those who are obvious lieing idiots.





Its good to have female friends that you can communicate well with, they are good listeners and will always be there for you.
my friend was in the same situation.


after spliting from her ex after a year relationship she didnt want to rush into anything with a guy for a while. then she found a guy friend who she became very close to. they always talked and became real close. he liked her and she was determined to stay friends but they didnt, you just need to give her time and let her realise that there is something more within the relationship u already have. its hard to get into another relatinship straight after you have come out of one.


my friend has now been with her b.f for a year and a month.


ul know when she wants to take things further :)


hope things work out (Y)


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