I have been dating an Indian guy (born in India) and now working in UK for 2 months and I am Caucasian. He is comming form a very traditional family, and is torn between his wish to be in harmony with is parents and his longing to be free and be with me. I need your advice about how to make our relationship last and work out the eventual problems?
He is of course afraid to tell his parents about us, and anyway it is a too early starge of a relationship anyway. And also he is very honest to me, and he is not one of the sweet talking Inidan guys who promiss golden hills and then return to India and marry a girl their parents chose for him. He actually already told his parents that he does not want an arranged marriage and that he wnats to choose his partner when he wants.
So I am now open to hear advices about HOW will and can our relationship WORK OUT inspite of the difficulties and potential problems wit his parents. I know it is difficult, but hay, give me a chance to try!Indian guy causcasian girl - need your advice for sucesfull dating?
Seek other couples who have a mixed relationship. My brother is caucasian and his wife is indian and they make BEAUTIFUL babies. ';A bit white says the moter in law..'; haha '; a bit dark we retort back'; and everyone laughs and looks at the beautiful babies.
Understand the cultural issues - learn about them - show respect o them. You may not be the wife they wanted but you will endear youself to them by having taken the time to understand their beliefs and demonstrating them.
Learning increases knowledge and knowledge reduces fear. If you reduce fear you reduce anxiety.
And nothing is a problem when two people are committed.
Have fun and be joyous in the problems and challenges - it gves you a real reason to learn about it.
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